Category: Social Media

Are Your Social Media Relationships Real or Fake?

Jenn Kaye, a relationship communication specialist, recently stated that she felt people were using Social Media sites, such as Twitter and Facebook, as more than tools, but as substitutes for real relationships. She wondered if some online relationships are based on fact or fiction. Anyone on Twitter for any real length of time, with a healthy following would say, for people who are extremely lonely there is an appeal to using it as a sort of friend "hub." But the hub is with a catch. It is not exchange, because they don't really want to "know" the other person, as much as they want to be acknowledged by them. It's a one-sided relationship. It's all about them and their need to feel "accepted."

There are people who call people online their best friend forever (BFF), and they have never uttered a word to them by phone or in person. Their whole relationship is based on 140 character posts, most which are not directed to them. Some get a little too happy when they are acknowledged publically, but this really only happens when people have tons of followers or fans. You know, like the celebs of Twitter. They receive their value from who knows them.

Social media tools such as blogs, Facebook, and Twitter are great for connecting people. In many ways it eliminates the six degrees of separation. Many friendships and business partnerships would not have materialized had it not been for these platforms. However, online friends are no substitute for friends in the real world. Since most communication is done by body language, it can be difficult to gage what a person means by a tweet or a post. How you read it, may not be what was meant. Of course, you could talk to people on the phone and get an idea, but again, there are some limits.

This is not to imply that all relationships have to be in real life, but face-to-face meeting brings something with it. How often have you heard, "They are not the same as they project themselves online?" Sometimes people misconstrue, but most often the person online feels safe in a certain anonymity in their communication online. They can be loud, confident, or whatever they choose, but face-to-face does not allow that luxury.

Heck, there have been meetings and conferences where people spent their time tweeting instead of engaging with the people in the room. This shows that too many people do not know how to have real relationships. The fantasy relationship is far easier to control then the real.

Jenn Kaye seems to be correct, too many people are using social media tools as a substitute for real communication and relationships. While social media has opened the world to us, it can easily become a wall hide behind.…

Social Media and Customer Service

Everyone uses social media for one reason – to be heard. But who’s listening? In a crowded room where everyone’s talking, sometimes it’s hard to filter out what you should really be paying attention to, and when. Nevertheless, social media provides business owners with a valuable tool – a way to address customer service without fielding dozens of phone calls or emails. One way to approach this is by asking questions: on your Twitter or Facebook, you could ask your clients (or potential customers) what they’d like to see built, done, addressed or accomplished. Then sit back and wait for the responses to roll in, and use that feedback to ascertain what you should be working on next. You could even go one step further – hashtagging in Twitter is a much-used but probably underrated tool when it comes to business management. For example, if I were to ask a question of my audience what they’re interested in or what they want to see, I could ask them to reply to my Twitter post with the hashtag #maenadcreative and keep a column in TweetDeck dedicated to that hashtag so I could more neatly organize responses to my queries. Same with Facebook; it’s easy enough to keep track of comments on my own page, but people who have ‘liked’ my page could also tag me using the @ symbol and typing out Maenad’s name to ‘tag’ it. Social media is great for being heard if you know how to properly utilize it, but it’s not just for broadcasting – it can be great for business management, too.…

Using Social Media in the Classroom

Facebook, Twitter, Tumblr, Myspace, Friendster, Google+; there are so many social media networks on the web today, and nearly everyone has one – that includes both students and teachers. Many teachers are using these networks to stay connected to their students today in the classroom, whether it is for personal reasons (keeping up with their students lives), or for educational reasons (keeping students updated with assignments and class scheduling). But is using social media networks in the classrooms helping enhance education? Or is it breaking the professional line between students and teachers?

Many teachers set up Facebook or Twitter pages on their own, and many set them up specifically for their classes to follow. Students are often encouraged to friend or follow their teachers on these social media network sites for a number of reasons. Teachers will post links that relate to a particular subject or unit that they may be teaching. They may also post study guides or homework assignments on their website for students to refer to whenever they want. Teachers often make the page just so they can simply be more available to their students, whether they just want to make an appointment or chat with them about an assignment or the class.

I have found that in all of my classes where teachers use some form of social media networking, it has been extremely helpful in the educational aspect of the class. Teachers create notes or posts to keep students up to date on the academic calendar for the class, so they can know when homework assignments are due and when there are upcoming tests or big assignments. I have found it extremely helpful to be able to better connect with teachers and to be able to chat with them whenever it is convenient for me. We all know that email is not the most reliable source today, simply because people often forget to check it daily. But honestly, who forgets to check their Facebook or Twitter?

For the purpose of staying connected with students, and being able to keep students up to date on assignments and the class calendar, I think that, as long as it does not cross a personal line, it is an excellent idea for teachers to have a social media network account. All students have one, so it is the best way for teachers to stay connected.…

Using Social Media in the Classroom

Facebook and Twitter have become the latest and greatest ways to communicate with anyone and everyone. This social media has taken our world into a whole new level of mass communication. Facebook and Twitter have not only made it easier to make contact with friends or other interests, but these social medias allow teachers and professors to have a different method of communication. Today's education is trying to keep up with the latest and greatest form of technology; education is finding ways to become more interesting for the students.

As a college student for five years now, it is becoming so much easier to keep up with assignments and lectures. Facebook and Twitter has become the latest tool my professors use to keep us up-to-date on assignments, on discussions, answering any questions, and more. Each student can have input and questions for not only the professor, but for other students. Our new online status has allowed us to have open debates at any time. We are able to find new ways and new approaches all the while learning from each other. "Twitter can be like a virtual staffroom where teachers can access in seconds a stream of links, ideas, opinions, and resources from a hand-picked selection of global professionals." (Tech & Learning, 2009)

Facebook has become a way for me to talk with any professor and many students. There are always rules involved with anything and everything. You have to be careful as to what you put on there because you are not talking with your every day friends. This is a place to learn from not only your professor but your peers as well. It is crucial to make sure that the comments and/or questions pertain to actual school related information. In my case, we are all adults and should not have to be reminded that it is inappropriate to post offensive or illegal information. However, that is yet another rule that exists. You would think that most rules that exist should be common sense. This could be a potential hazard….people not thinking before speaking/writing. Content could easily be taken in the wrong way creating an uncomfortable environment. Again…it should be common sense on how you project yourself online or even in public for that matter!

Facebook and Twitter are just the beginning of where things are going in technology. Luckily education is finding a way to keep students more informed creating an open forum.


Tech & Learning. (2009, April 16). Nine reasons to twitter in schools. Retrieved from…

2 Atlanta Social Media Junkies Compete for MTV TJ Gig – Atlanta Social Media

Out of the 18 finalists listed, 2 hail from Atlanta, Kayki (@KayKiSpeaks) and Xavier Moreno (@officialdjx). Kayki currently covers pop culture on her blog, KayKi Speaks and when Xavier isn't deejaying, he writes about hip hop news and entertainment on his blog, I Speak with My Hands. Kayki and Xavier will be a part of the final 20 who will compete in a series of challenges which will culminate in a live televised finale on August 8, when five will be left standing to battle on air. In the end, one lucky person will be selected as the new face and voice for MTV's social media platforms.…

Using Social Media in the Classroom

Social Media has changed the way people connect. Twitter, Facebook, and other sights allow people to engage in ongoing conversations by the click of a button, and this includes students in a classroom. A blog allows the student to engage in an ongoing conversation, and the student can go back and review the previous information since the blog saves the information. The discussion is typically informal, ongoing, and permanent (on record). Some teachers promote blogging for educational purposes; some teachers oppose blogging for educational purposes. Blog usage can provide the student with an audience outside the classroom, so why would teachers not use blogs if such technology helps the student learn? A clear-cut answer may be desirable, but it may not be possible because blogs, like anything else, offers some educational advantages, as well as presents some challenges. Benefits of blogging versus challenges of blogging: which one wins out? The following overview takes a look at each side from the standpoint of an educator: Benefits of Using a Blog for Student Writing and Other Educational Purposes
  • Writing on a blog provides the student with an unrehearsed audience. Imagining an audience outside the teacher can be difficult. The student typically views the teacher as the intended audience and includes the information in writing that the teacher would desire, rather than the information for whom the argument is intended. Allowing the student to engage in a blog conversation allows the student to place the writing outside the classroom, making the writing vulnerable to criticism from outside sources.
  • Allowing a student to engage in a blog conversation where others can see the posts helps the student understand that others are reading because someone other than for whom the student intends the message may respond. A response from an unintended audience member may be kind, but it may not be. Either way, the student learns from the outside response that word choice counts, arrangement of words counts, and aim of words count. Such an exercise helps the teacher hold the student responsible for the written word.
Challenges of Using a Blog for Student Writing and Other Educational Purposes
  • One of the biggest challenges with allowing a student to use a blog for educational purposes (even outside the physical classroom) is who owns the information that the student produces? If the blog exists within the school’s computing system, the school owns the information. This gives the school the right to govern what takes place in such a blog. What about blogs outside the school’s computing system? Who holds authority over social media blogs that the school does not own, but involves students (and possibly teachers)? Who governs should a mishap take place with a student post?
  • Facebook and Twitter are two popular social media sights that allow blogging or blog-like communication for the student, and schools are using such popular blog tools to manage other areas of school. For instance, some schools use such social media tools to create an official page for the school to deliver important updates and to help people stay connected. What happens, though, when unhealthy correspondence takes place on the official page? Is the school or the social media site liable? Can a school make disciplinary decisions based on what the student posts on such social media sites?
The bottom line seems to come to this: Using a social media blog provides excellent opportunity for the student to learn how to write toward an intended audience, while considering unintended audience. At the same time, using a social media blog that exists outside the school’s computing system leaves open the possibility of abuse to the student (and possibly even by the student) without any legal repercussion. Should the teacher chance blog usage for education? Should the school allow blog usage for education? You decide.…

Social Media Rules for Students

As a recent graduate of Hawaii Pacific University, social media played a big part in our curriculum. It is a new medium for learning and communicating, that when used correctly, can enhance a students learning experience. The computer lab is one of the busiest places on HPU’s Honolulu campus. It is where students go to both work on projects together or to keep themselves busy on the internet in between classes. As you walk through the rows of computers to find a free one, you can’t help but notice that most students are on their Facebook pages. This is a way that students connect and keep in touch. Some professors even had class pages on Facebook so students can keep in touch. The University has Pipeline, where every class has it’s own page, but professors noticed that not all students were comfortable asking for help where everyone could see their questions. Social media sites aren’t blocked on campus, they are a good way for students to keep in touch and to make new friends. Some of my friends from HPU connected with me through class Facebook pages and then later met on campus for study groups. HPU recognizes that social media is a good thing for both teachers and students to be a part of and it’s an active part of life on campus. Some of the professors and one of the admissions counselors that I know of even have their own Twitter accounts. These are easy ways for students to find out what is going on campus and to ask questions of the professors. All of the students that I have talked to said that their professors using Twitter shows that they are willing to adapt to the new ways of learning and communicating with students. So overall, social media has had a positive effect on the students of my alma mater, Hawaii Pacific University. It is a good way to connect both professors and students on campus and around the island.…

1993 Miss Universe Dayanara Torres talks effects of social media on pageants – Los Angeles red carpet

See the source image Former Miss Universe Dayanara Torres attended the premiere of “Linsanity” documentary at the TCL Cinemas last Thursday, September 19, 2013. While she’s been busy with various projects, she was asked her thoughts on the negative comments on social media regarding the win of Nina Davuluri for the 2013 Miss America crown. Torres admitted that she hasn’t had time to watch many beauty pageants including the recent Miss America which crowned to first American of Indian descent. However, the Puerto Rican beauty chimed in on the effects of social media on beauty pageant results, “I think with social media its difficult because it kind of gives them that protection for them to say what they want to say that they wouldn’t say in front of the faces (of the contestants). It gives that power to say and maybe say a little too much or make their opinion a little too big without thinking of the consequences and who they might be hurting.” Torres adds, “It happens in every pageant, in every game and no one is completely happy and it’s just part of life.” The beauty queen turned actress, model, singer and writer who had been a popular figure in the Philippines recently starred in her own film “200 Cartas.” She hopes to return to the island nation with plans to premiere her film there.…

The Power of Social Media. Mine

I had a powerful realization tonight in the Apple Store.

I took in a torn leather iPhone case that I had purchased there a couple of months ago. I didn't have a receipt, but I figured since I paid forty bucks for it I should at least see if they'd do something about it. To make a long story short, the great people there did the right thing and took care of me. It was a positive, but not wholly surprising, experience. I had a sense they'd do that.

As I was checking out, I told the clerk that I was going to tweet about my positive experience. She thought that was cool. Actually, I had decided I was going to tweet about the experience no matter how it turned out. And that's when the realization hit me. Not that I could tweet my pleasure or dissatisfaction (I've done both before), but how empowered I felt. It wasn't little old me taking on a powerful (in this case) retailer, it was me and seven thousand of my friends. The odds seemed much more even than they used to be. And that felt good.

I realize that only a small fraction of my followers would even see the tweet, and most of them would pay it no mind. Still, it was nice to know that there was something I could do about my predicament, regardless of the outcome. And since I had also checked in at Foursquare when I entered the store, I knew that I had even more power at my disposal. Not to mention my Facebook friends, on whom I could call anytime.

Well done, Apple Store. You did good. This time.

Steve McKee is president of McKee Wallwork Cleveland and author of When Growth Stalls: How It Happens, Why You're Stuck, and What to Do About It . Find him on Twitter and LinkedIn.…